Deva means divine, Madhyama means the middle – the divine middle. The extreme is the disease,
and the mind lives through the extremes. The mind always thinks in terms of either/or, and reality is
just exactly in the middle. It is never either/or; it is both/and. It is neither day nor night, neither life
nor death, neither body nor soul. It is somewhere between the two, exactly between the two.
And exactly in the middle is also the point from where transcendence happens, from where you go
To be in the middle is to go beyond both. Health and great balance, silence, come through this
understanding. Because extremes create tensions and excitements, they create heaven and hell.
And the mind is always a chooser, it lives through choosing. The moment you stop choosing
and allow life to be as it is, you immediately fall into the middle. Let-go is the way of the middle.
Choicelessness is the meaning of let-go; Then you allow life, whatsoever it brings. Buddha calls it
the philosophy of suchness, ’tathata’, the philosophy of as-it-is-ness. Let it be as it is: when it is
night, it is night; don’t hanker for the day. When it is day, it is day; don’t ask for the night. When it is
pain it is pain; when it is pleasure it is pleasure. Don’t choose, allow it to happen. Slowly, slowly a
great understanding arises out of this allowing, out of this let-go. And that understanding makes you
alert, aware that you are separate from both. You are neither life nor death: you are just a witness.
That witnessing is Buddhahood, that witnessing is enlightenment. And to be in the middle is the way
So let this be your key: never go to the extreme, always keep in the middle, like a tightrope walker.
Slowly, slowly, the knack arises. Once you have understood how to be in the middle the mind
disappears on its own accord, because it cannot exist in the middle; that is the secret of the work.
It can exist only in the extreme, opposite to something, diametrically opposed to something. It is a
chooser: it can either love or hate. It cannot rest in the middle without choosing, without prejudice.It cannot allow things to have their own way. It interferes, it tries to impose itself upon reality. Reality
is, God is, and all is already as it should be. We have just to relax and allow it to be.
Having real friends in your life is a blessing, but being one is the goal. The value of real friends should be one of the things to learn from traveling. Over the years, the most beautiful words have been written about friendship. But all of them are understatements.
Everyone needs a supportive friend
Traveling makes women feel extremely empowered, self-reliant and adventuresome. These types of well-built feelings occur, especially when you solo travel AKA run the world, like Beyonce would sing at this point. However, even Queen B didn’t just become the ultimate Survivor on her own. She had two soldier girls beside her, when she still had bills, bills, bills to pay, and was about to bloom into the independent, bootylicious woman that all of us now love.
Being strong in a speedy society is essential, but knowing who you can count on is justly as significant. What would be the reason behind all the art, if there was nobody to see it? What would be the reason behind music and everything written, if there were no one to hear or read it? Thus, all of us wandering Miss Independent’s need a true friend to support us. We are not meant to be alone, even if we sometimes think we are.
They see the magical cuckoo in you
There are 204 countries, 809 islands and 7 seas. And you were lucky enough to meet your friends. They care about you despite the unshared DNA, despite that fact that you are always late, forget to call, and even if you are little nuts in general. Your friends are the people that make you laugh louder, and don’t judge for still waiting a letter from Hogwarts. They have the ability to see the true magic inside of you, even when you are hexing them with cursing spells.
They help, especially when it’s time to leave and come back
Real friends help you to pack all the crucials for your trips. Passport, courage, your smile and a belief that’s it’s all going to be alright. Real friends offer you a ride to the airport at 4 AM on Sunday morning, no matter how many times they have picked you up from there, at the same time. Furthermore, real friends are package deals. They are like therapists, siblings and wardrobes, conventionally all in one. That’s why it’s crucial to choose wisely; same sized.
They don’t care about your private jet
In your life you will probably meet legions of those people, who will want to hop on to a private jet with you, but unlikely several of those, who are willing to pick you up, when that infamous jet is badly out of order.
These people are the ones that wait you to come back when you are gone, and help you to unpack your luggage, no matter what kind of baggage you travel with. Real friends are authentic, incomplete and treasured. However, unfortunately, they don’t fit suitcases.
They never forget or give up on you
Real friends are like stars. Sometimes you loose them out of your sight, and sometimes you don’t see them at all, but they are there. Forever. Real friends don’t ever stop contacting you, even when you have been too busy, while chilling at the beach for the past 6 months. True friends don’t expect anything, they are grateful for every moment they share with you.
They care about you, despite your credit card depth
Real friends join you for a road trip, no matter how many times you have already almost killed them. Real friends send you post cards, even though you never have space for their souvenirs. In essence, real friends send you the pair of forgotten shoes that you can’t live without – already knowing that they will never get the money back from postal charges. Real friends offer you a couch, when you come back from your journey, with – USD500 in your bank account. And of course, without a job and a place to stay.
They are not always the ones you expect them to be
Real friends are not always the ones you have known since the 90s, sometimes they are the ones that came into your life with one-way ticket, when you least expected it. The times change, people change, life changes. The real shit never changes.
They love you more than anyone
Real friends sometimes love you more than you even love yourself. And they definitely love you more than the douchebag you mistakenly spent your travel budget for.
Make time for them, work for your peer-to-peer relationship, and care about them. Eternal friendships are like cherry blossoms. They bloom rarely, but when they do, they are serene, well-rounded and enchantingly beautiful. They make you to see the world as a better place.
We’ve all had days, weeks, months and — for some — even years of dark days and depression. Whether we fall into ruts of self-sabotage, loneliness or insecurity, leading a happy, joyful life can sometimes feel like a chore.
Most of us are so busy trying to dodge life bullets, we forget to stop and appreciate the little victories.
Consider for a moment that you’re doing a tremendous job at life. Living isn’t an easy thing to do, but it can be enjoyable when we start to see the good instead of focusing on the bad.
You are actually living a good life by recognizing these 25 signs:
- Your relationships are less dramatic than they use to be.
You may not have as much money as you want but you live a rich life.
You’re not afraid to ask for help and support.
Where you live feels like home.
You’ve raised your standards.
You let go of things that don’t make you feel good.
You have moments where you appreciate who you see in the mirror.
You’re working on limiting your inner critic and consciously choosing more positive thoughts.
You’ve learned that setbacks and failure are part of self-growth.
You have a support system that includes people who would do anything for you.
You hear “I love you” often, from friends, family or a partner.
You’ve accepted what you can’t change, but change what you can’t accept.
You don’t complain much, but instead focus on solutions.
You don’t blame your parents, and accept them for who they are.
You stopped caring about what others think of you.
You’re happy for your exes when they move on.
You can celebrate others’ successes.
You allow yourself to feel your feelings and are comfortable sharing them.
You have passions that you pursue.
You’re able to accept compliments without deflecting.
You have things to look forward to.
You have goals that have come true.
You have empathy for others.
You feel connected to your work.
You love deeply and open yourself up to be loved by others.